Rear Ended – Rage or Love
It was a GREAT DAY! You know the type when you accomplish something that was a little scary and it went better than expect? You find yourself smiling without effort and feel charged. That was me this past Sunday, I was driving home after certifying 16 new Schwinn indoor cycling instructors when things went way off course.
I stopped at a traffic light that was out and within 5 seconds the sharp sound of crunching metal and force of the impact took me by surprise. For a brief moment there was rage – SERIOUSLY – my car just got out of the shop a month ago when someone in the grocery store parking lot backed into me! NOT AGAIN!
Within moments something quietly took over from inside. The rage melted away and grace filled my heart. I took a deep breath and made the choice not to let this inconvenience rob me of joy and I was going to turn this around. I took a deep breath, checked for safety, got out and walked to the car behind me. The driver was a women in her mid 40’s with a young child in the car seat. I asked if she and her baby were ok and she nodded with tears in her eyes. I looked straight in her eyes, touched her arm and said, “this is going to be ok! You are safe, your child is safe, cars don’t matter and they can be fixed. I asked if she was ok to drive to a near by parking lot to exchange information and she nodded with the tears now streaming down her face. When we got to the lot she was nervous. I reached out and gave her a hug deciding that this is not the time to be “professional” this is my time to step up, show compassion and love. She was a bit stiff and taken by surprise but the tears had stopped.
The absence of anger I felt was almost alarming! The younger version of myself would have led with rage. If you know me, I can be “passionate”, fly off the handle, overreact and be judgmental. So WHAT the WHAT happened that allowed me to choose grace over anger?
Reflection tells me that it is a combination of things I have been working on for the past few years. I’ll call it embracing the positive. Specifically reading motivational books, listening to uplifting podcasts, setting goals, journaling, spending time with positive people, embracing positive social media, and maybe most important, finding ways to serve others.
I believe this accident was a blessing to show me that I am on the right path. I am FAR from perfect but this experience has given me the muscle to fight the next “rear end” that comes my way. Some people will laugh at me and call me, “Suzzie Sunshine” but it won’t stop me from loving on others and continue to strive for joy, and become 1% better everyday.
My hope in sharing this story is the next time you are “rear ended” and find yourself at the crossroads of rage and love you choose the path that serves your heart.